Keeping it real

[bdub]

I say peeling back the onion because my DB coach says that my sexual demands were an attempt to fulfill other real needs that weren't being met, such as feeling desirable, important, and admired. But I also know that it was the lack of love I had for myself that I was trying to compensate for by having her 'prove' her love to me.

WOW!

I have never been able to put the words together, but reading that REALLY clicked on the lightbulb for me. Reading that is like looking in the mirror. Thank you so much for your profound words and insight.
The further my W and i drifted apart, the more I pushed for sex. The more I pushed for sex, the further we drifted apart. The more I pushed, the more she rejected. Every time she rejected me, I needed that much more to feel desired, important and admired.

I am not trying to be overly dramatic, but this post has changed my life for the better.