When she left and before I knew there was an A, I begged her for another chance. I asked her why she was leaving, and she said it was because I always got what I wanted. She claimed that she always went along with whatever I wanted to do and that she had killed her own desires to do it. She said now she wants to be independent and live life her way. That is all I have to go on. We honestly did not argue. I can't even remember when we last argued.
This is HUGE. I got the same reasoning when my W dropped the bomb on me. I explored this a little and it became very evident in my sitch that W felt her opinion didnt matter and we just always did what I wanted to do and that was it. It made her feel like she was in a father / daughter type relationship. In fact, I recall a few times she even said " stop treating me like you are my dad". I thought it was ridiculous at the time. Looking back, I screwed up big time. Take some time to explore this issue. If this is actually your case also, you can start working on it and start letting go of the control. Early on in our R, my W said " score points, make a decision". I took that and ran with it for 15 years thinking I was racking up the points. I never looked back and she never tried to stop me.
M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
