Wife having emotional affair part 2

[PatientMan]

Rest assured, because you are in good hands. If you are talking to a DB coach, do precisely what he or she says. If that is over, sandi2 and 25yearsmlc are telling you exactly what you should be hearing, you just have to be willing to listen and follow through. (I have read what they have posted, and - though it may be difficult to accept - there is already a TON of earth-shattering advice, knowledge, and perspective there, you just have to have the ears to hear it...or eyes in this case, I guess...you get what I mean.) The biggest mistake you can make is to - instead - listen to the voice in your own head right now and discount what you are being told.

Go back through your own two threads. Pull out the posts from sandi and 25, and read their posts over and over and over again until what they are saying is engraved in your brain.

Seriously.

Be prepared because this is a process. It takes time. It is best that your W does not know what is going on with your process. Yes you need to GAL, assess yourself and apply your 180's. Yes, you need to become a H only a fool would leave, but being a spouse only a fool would leave INCLUDES being someone with the giblets to up and leave/not condone when he or she is being mistreated because you are worth more than that.

This is not a game. You are not playing your W. You are not lying to her. She wants a divorce and you do not. Right now - while your world is spinning a bit - is the time to listen and apply, *especially to those two ladies. Kapeesh?

-PM

*not to discount what anyone else is saying, I can just vouch for those two, both from observation and from personal experience. Who else is posting? Bond? Yes, listen to him too.