I can see both sides of it. Yes, I made the mistake of not having W send the no contact letter prior to counseling. We both agreed it needed sent and she stated she had no problem with it, so I 'assumed' she was starting to write it. My fault. I really think she's not as concerned with no contact with OM as she is with how does she handle that new circle of friends she's made going forward. She's wondering- do I have to give them up too? She knows I don't like them and why would I? They basically encouraged her A.
I re-read her last line of being 'not sure I'm able to give up that life' and can't help wonder if that's a cry for help in giving it up or her way of saying she's not 'willing' to give it up. And what a sweet life that is- sharing a 2 bedroom condo away from her kids/animals.
Part of me agrees with the above advice to ignore her spew and just address it in MC, but I'm also just fed up with her continued delay in all of this. 3 weeks ago I gave her the choice of working with me or we're done- and I meant it. Yet here we are still discussing her lack of cooperation....
So I have 2 responses drafted- 1 following the above advice and 1 basically saying MC is a waste of time if she's not willing to give up that life, we'll start discussing D after I get back from the wedding (and we're not going to dinner tonight as a family).
