I will admit that I am crap at setting boundaries, but canceling MC due to her hesitation sounds an awful lot like a threat to me.
I see her trying to work through conflicting emotions in her email. If you push, won't she feel justified in NOT giving up the life she's worked to build over the past year?
The no contact letter needs to happen, but I think it should be presented to her more like, "I am ready to work on our marriage, but I cannot do that unless the door to the OM is completely closed." Firm but loving, you know?
My 2 cents -- I've read your thread but I'm not in an A situation so I may not have a clue what I'm talking about . . .
