New here, my fairytale gone wrong

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Thanks everyone. Yes, the amount he is offering is generous based on what he would be forced to give me (us) but is still only barely enough to cover the bills we have (which are high by most standards, I admit, but also the life that HE chose much of, I stated I would be as happy with much less as long as we (our family) were together in a safe home). If his income is what he states (and yes, there will be full disclosure and looking at his accounts that I currently have no access to) he is actually giving me about 70% of of it. My attorney says we can base the support as what he is offering based on this income and if his income increases we can have it tied to that new amount (which I would imagine would go the other way too, but if he's making less he's gonna pay me less anyway, as he just won't have it so I'm not sure I can be concerned about that part).

I'm just really annoyed that he is saying our date of separation is 12/1/2012 (the day he went back east "for 30 says" to work) when we were clearly "all good" and ready to move back there as a family back in 5/2013 and still a couple (albeit with issues we were working on) until 8/2014. My attorney says the earliest it could really be is 5/2014. The only reason to say 12/2012 is to get to the 2 year separation mark sooner and let this be a unilateral divorce based on that. It's just not right and I'm not sure if I should force the issue, simply because it's right in the eyes of the truth of our relationship. I'm pretty convinced that he will take this all the way, even if I force him to wait the 2 years from 5/2014 and I certainly don't want to push him farther away, emotionally, or screw us financially.

The other thought I had is, if he is smart (apparently his lawyer didn't point this out), he could simply withdraw his petition from PA and refile in CA where it is no contest and no 2 year wait so, even if I forced the date of separation point, he could get around it if he really looked into it and thought of it anyway...

In light of all this, do you all think I should just let this run it's course the way he wants to do it and know the truth in my own mind? I'm so torn on doing what is right and what is smart...