Waiting saps your strength and makes her lose respect for you.
Living in denial is toxic for you and your children.
IF you sit in limbo your wife will serial cheat until she finds her "soul-mate" and then she'll divorce you. By that time you'll be too worn out to even know what you want anymore.
Sometimes ultimatums are the one thing that people respect. They show that you are there, that you have self-esteem and that you are real. No one is attracted to a cuckold.
There are guys in this forum that temporarily saved their marriages by "Getting a life" being the best husband they could be and "nicing" their wives back into the marriage. Here's what happened: sooner or later the husbands slipped back into their normal behavior. Their wives (who never owned up to the pain and suffering they caused their families) and ended up self-soothing by cheating again.
Also don't forget the male/female dynamics which are more real than we want to admit. Part of your attractiveness is "manning up".
