Depressed WAW, digging in, learning about myself

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Thanks everyone. That is all stuff I have been doing. I've been on a regular weight lifting routine and have picked up trail running, as well as salsa lessons. It's all been fantastic. I am definitely not looking for these conversations. She told me about him out of the blue yesterday. My question remains - should I tell her that that's a boundary for me, that it really affects me to hear about other men? Or should I just acknowledge and drop it as soon as she brings it up? Again, I am slightly encouraged that she told me about it. I'm assuming if she really was interested in the guy, I would not know about him.

I don't want to set a boundary of coparenting-only conversations. As far as I know, she is not in a PA or EA, so I have no problem being a friend to her when she initiates a conversation or meeting. And that has happened a lot. I have done a really good job of not initiating contact. I'd say at least 90% of our convos are started by her now, and most of the ones I start are D2 or house related. Just this morning we chatted about her new group exercise class, and the conversation was initiated by her. I don't want to eliminate these conversations unless there is an EA or PA going on with OM. I'm trying to fill her EN's anytime she will allow it, but I'm not obsessing about doing that. Just trying to be opportunistic.