A bit of stupidity on my part last night. I searched online and am 99.9% sure I found WAWs OM. She told me were he's from and that he fixes guitars and lo and behold I found him. He wasn't what I expected but I can see the attraction. He plays a guitar. She told me before she finds that sexy in a man plus he runs his own firm fixing and making them. Looks wise he is no better than me.
What does this all mean? Well nothing really. I'm still detached. To me this looks like excitement on her part - a man who plays guitar must be exciting and sexy. But he isn't the father of our child. He has a lot to live up to. We shall see over the coming months how this pans out. In the meantime I am focussing on getting my own place. Actually excited by it. And I have a social life better than ever. I will make sure I continue on this path. Onwards and upwards.
What does this all mean? It means you'd better start taking some guitar lessons! J/K
In all seriousness...I find that the less I know about the OM, the better (mentally). The more you know, the more you find yourself going nuts trying to compare yourself to him, etc.
The only benefit in it could be the fact that you may be able to identify what needs of hers the OM is fulfilling that you are not. Besides that, I don't see how knowing more about the OM could help you in the situation.
I'm not a vet, but I do know that one of the key points in DB-ing is to not focus on the OM.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
