S4 had the flu all week. H thought he had the flu, but then I caught him eating nacho's so I don't know how sick he was. H isn't healthy, has something going on internally so it could have been anything.
Yes, you are so right I do need a plan of action don't I. I just don't know what to expect when he does initiate. If he calls me at work, I'm not answering the phone. I'm not using my cell phone unless it's an emergency. Since H pays for this he thinks it's his and he really is the only that calls me on it. Just last week he went through all my calls and then deleted all the numbers of people who called me. I really don't want to talk to him for a few days.
Yesterday S asked where H was and I said H is gone for a few days and then S was okay with that.
The anger is gone, I won't be angry, I'll be loving, yet firm as I would with a friend. My friends don't treat me the way that H does, so I've never had to "talk" to a friend about their treatment of m.
