He Ran Again! What Now?

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Cathy,

I am so sorry to come on here after the weekend to read your new thread. (((HUGS)))

You said that your H hasn't been feeling well but you also mentioned that he hasn't been drinking as much lately either. Is he going through physical withdrawal from alcohol? If that is the case, he probably feels like crap. This doesn't justify what he said or did, but might give you a basis for conversation when he shows up.

Has he ever acknowledged that he has a drinking problem? I don't remember reading that in your threads. If he has, you could start a conversation, "I understand that you are not feeling well since you have cut down on your drinking...but I need you to understand that regardless of how you feel, you cannot speak to me like that, with or without our son present. And you could add that you have done nothing but support him..."

Am I way off base here? I know that you will have to speak to him sometime, and to approach it with a smile in your voice instead of anger, will knock his socks off - it will definately get his attention.

I am not saying to roll over and ignore what he did, but to approach him with kindness and friendship instead of anger and disappointment.

It will take all the strength you have to do this, but you are strong. You have done this so far and done it well. This is yet another test of your resolve.

I guess I am saying be ready when he initiates contact, but you don't have to initiate it yourself. Don't let him catch you off guard, run the conversation in your head ahead of time.

Know that I am here to support you. I'm sorry that I'm not on here much on the weekend, but can't when H is around. But I continue to pray for you.

Stay strong!