Ss, that all sounds great! I know what you mean about the fog lifting due to the S, as I feel the same way about my situation. I still wish the S hadn't happened (and that it would end soon), but I think my perspective is much clearer now because of it.
Re: solving problems, everything I've read about long-term relationships says that all couples have unresolvable problems. The difference between couples who are happy and couples who are unhappy is that the happy couples learn how to manage those differences. I definitely see where my H and I had good intentions, but we tried to manage our differences in different ways -- which led to a lot of unintentional miscommunication and hurt feelings. One of the things I'm working on now is to accept the differences and not be intimidated by them.
And yay for getting him to agree to some 1:1 time in October. I see lots of positives in your interactions with your H -- keep it up!
