MLC? Let it Be.

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mleigh4, he initiated it. H said in April (for the umpteenth time) he wanted to 'end the marriage.' Said he would find a mediator to use. That took him about 3 months, said he found one, gave me her contact info, I called her (like I was supposed to) so she could explain the general process, and she said that the next steps would be signing the mediation agreement, and then setting up our first appointment. I talked to her in early August, and we've now had the agreement in our hands for at least a month. Have set up no appointment yet. Ball is in his court, for now.

You might be right -- once they begin to see the stark reality of it, it might make a difference. When I told H that I signed the agreement, in an e-mail, I also said that I wouldn't stand in the way of his happiness, and if divorce was what would make him happy, I wasn't standing in his way. First time either one of us ever used the D word. Figured it was time. I think this was me 'lovingly detaching'?? And me making sure he knew what exactly he was getting into...