Wife Declares She is a Lesbian

[essjay]

Wonka,

I have never, ever physically hurt her, I've always been considerate. I've never had issues with alcohol or any other drugs, also never had an affair(s).

The issues she recently stated she had with me were;
I have been selfish, lazy, didn't help around the house much or with the girls, frequently/always being tired, moody and depressing to live with. Never satisfied, always wanting more - nicer house, car etc. I always controlled her apparently and never felt listened to enough. Strange as i thought we always made joint decisions.
I agree with some of that - I think that I may have had my own mini mlc!. However, it was not always like that, we have had fantasic times together - to say that it's always been like that is a complete rewrite of our history
I know I'm trying to justify this but, in my job i worked twelve hour days, mon to fri. Evenings/Weekends i just wanted/needed to relax - watch sport on tv etc. She worked part time and got on with mowing the lawn, painting the fence or a room in the house etc.
But also, at weekends i often cooked our family meals and cleaned the house etc
I thought we made a really good team.

We're the complete opposite now; i'm the one working on the house, every weekend and some evenings - one of my 180's.
She's not interested in the house at all.

Nothing seems to be working for me, feeling pretty hopeless..

Something has to happen for the dynamic to change here..I keep praying for an Act of God.

Jay