The obvious right choice would have been to focus on what was going onw/in me first and become ok w/ me. I allowed a lack of friends, the self-esteem boost of an OW who showed interest in me, and my W's assurances we were done to make me blind to the foolishness of getting involved w/ someone.
I am fully aware of the folly of my ways and that I never should have gone that route. Nothing I can do to undo it now. I quit talking to the OW cold turkey, blocked her on FB and will never contact her again as soon as I saw the error and resolved to fight for my M.

Oh well, this is all old stuff that I'm mentally past. Unfortunately my W isn't. Again, I need her to come to the table emotionally w/ something other than anger. I'm patient.

On the plus, just played my first soccer game in the league I joined. Finally trying to GAL.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.