W and I had, and sometimes still have, plenty of those awkward silent periods. I've learned to be comfortable with them. The quietness is not going to make or break the relationship.
Just be yourself. If you feel like mentioning something go ahead and do it. The only thing I'd avoid now is relationship talks. They are not helpful at this point.
I like to think of it as a dance. When my W is opening up and connecting, I do the same. If she's pulling back or being distant, I give her space.
You know your H better than any of us, so just pay close attention and take notes.
Don't fool yourself with fantasies of a dream partner. D is very painful, something to avoid if at all possible! New relationships offer no guarantee. Plus, since you have kids H and you will never be truly "Done" with each other. Go ahead and fantasize if it helps you deal with things, but you're far from done!
Last edited by ForeverYoung; 09/16/1404:09 AM.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
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