Didn't I tell ya piecing would be harder than re-attracting?? Whew lawdy! We are on a wild ride, sista!!
As Starsky said, all we can do is keep working the process.
I make sure I'm consistently telling H what I need. I'm learning to do that in a non-bratty, non-whining way. Lol.
We are in the same boat as far as everything being chaotic and so our time spent together these days isn't what it was when H first came home. We still insist on one date-night per week. Otherwise, H is still working to pull us out of the financial hole that was created when he was paying for two households ... and then stopped, making it impossible for me to pay two months of mortgage payments.
So I guess in some ways we are still paying for what happened ... in a couple different ways.
But we are both "working the process" and changing the way we communicate and enjoying one another during the times we can spend together. So onward we go!
Here's hoping the same for you and your H.
You know I'm a fan.
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
