you have to come to a place where you are OK with the fact that you can never be sure of anything from anyone
Fig, this is an excellent point. I needed to read this tonight.
It's easy to get bogged down with the hurt and anger. It's not easy to start trusting again. At some point you have to shift your focus to the positive actions you see from your spouse. If every day, or even most days, are focused on the past you'll never move forward.
Me: 30 H: 35 M: 5 years S2 Signs of MLC started Feb 2014 BD - PA July 2014 Piecing/reconciling late July 2014