uRworthy, you are so kind. Your words mean so much to me.
About me, I am 40 and a SAHM now, was in the insurance industry 20 years prior. I am very involved with my kids school and my church (although I'm terrified that they all will "find out" that my H left me and think there's something wrong with ME, not many on the outside world understand this whole MLC stuff and how it really can NOT "take 2 to tango" the end of a wonderful marriage) I have an amazing support system in my family (some of whom know MLC well, my Aunt had the same thing happen to her after 30 years) and even in H's family (except that my MIL, who I completely adore, is making so many excuses for his behavior it'd driving me insane).
With this clouded brain from today I can't think of anything else...
Talked to my attorney from PA who advised that the $ amount that my H is offering is an amazing deal and I should jump on it (once the papers are legally filed, apparently what he filed so far is just the beginning docs) but he also stated that we could contest the separation date and make it no earlier than 5/2014 (when we vacationed together and had marital relations) and force counseling. Not sure which way I should lean on this one. I want to do what's right and buy time for my MLC'er and our M but I also don't want to screw me and my kids, financially (which may happen if I contest or force counseling)... Any BTDT in this regard?
Me- 40 H- 41 S8, D5, S4 M 19 y T 23 Bomb drop 6/2013 H asked for/filed for D 9/2014 22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together
