Shocked and freaked out

[GoatGal]

Hi Seattle,

This:
"Our sex life has never been awesome. When she was traveling a lot I got more into porn which probably increased my expectations for her in the bedroom / made me think about other women.
I think this prevented me from being able to establish an emotional connection with her through sex.
Also, I believe it diminished my sex drive a bit.
She often wanted to have sex in the mornings and I wanted to have sex at night (when she was dressed up - which I always thought was hot)."

...is a big red flag for me.

I don't want to hijack your thread, but please read up on my stuff to see how an unhealthy relationship with porn will destroy your relationship and your sex life.

This can be serious stuff! The inability to be emotionally available during sex and the wanting to have things at night with the "visuals" points to an inability to really be vulnerable and close to her. That is not a fun relationship for women, long term.

Something to think about.

Good luck and hang in there,

--GGG