Thanks Laurie. I'll order the books.

So far today, no contact from H which isn't surprising, I wouldn't take his call anyway. I have no idea where he is and isn't that wonderful? We have a child that he can abandon at any time he wants to...and I do believe it is abandonment. H thinks that if he pays for child care, it's not abandoment? I do know that S will not be involved with him and OW this I will not budge on. S will not have any exposure to that life or world.

I'm trying to anticipate what H's mood will be like once he does call, show up or whatever. I do know that he'll blame me, it'll be my fault that he left..that he ran away. Oh who cares, there's nothing I can do anyways.

He'll have to surface at some point..or maybe not.

Cathy