Where do I find this book? I know you've mentioned it before, but I just am not finding it anywhere.
Pigpen--I like that! I know he goes back to OW because she doesn't care what he's like, she's that desparate and pathetic. I DO know WHY H goes back to OW. BUT, my H is killing himself and that is what pisses me off the most, that OW just doesn't care about my H that way! And, that there is nothing I can do about it either. So be it.
Uncomfortable with H in the house!? I was standing next to him the other day completely at peace within myself and could FEEL my H's toxicness (is that a word) it's that strong.
Quote: He may have been putting too much pressure on himself trying to be the perfect husband that he knows in his heart that he is supposed to be, but he has been trying to do it on his own and that is why he failed. He needs the Lord in order to be the husband that he is supposed to be to you and the father that he is to be to his son.
And he was trying, but I think our son's sickness and me and everything just was too much for my H to handle.
I've read as much as I can on MLC, the stages, etc. and need to not focus on that anymore. I was trying to set a timeframe, I was looking into the future and I was getting ahead of myself.
Quote: You will have to set boundaries though and make it very clear that you do not want him home unless he plans on staying home and putting real effort into working things out. He has to make some major changes in order for you to take him back into the home. That you don't want this disrruption again because it is to difficult on everyone when he does this.
That he has to face himself and that you are more then willing to be there for him and help him through this, but you are not going to have him walking in and out of your life like it is a revolving door.
And this IS what I need to do, want to do. I feel strong enough that I can do this, but saying it might be the tricky part. I will need to think on this some more and how to best handle.
I can't imagine how he must be feeling today, now that he's had time to think about what he's done, but I can no longer focus on that.
When I first read this Laurie, I cried. I know H is in pain, but I'm also thinking "why me Lord" AM I strong enough to handle this...and I am. I am the chosen one I guess, the one to pray for my H's soul, but that's all I can do at this point.
I was thinking on my way into work that not to long ago I could have cared less if my H died, that he was killing himself. But now, I feel different about my H, deep down I care about him, the same way that I care for myself and my S.
