Not everyone can save a M, and sometimes the people that come to these boards end up wanting to go through with a D.
My soon to be ex-W did cheat previously, and the new revelations are; cocaine use, living with one of her coworkers/"boyfriend?", lying about past events, stretching the truth, manipulating, etc...My ex did not even consider that she needs counseling and she made zero effort to improve our marriage.
Sometimes people need to not fall on their face, lose a spouse, a car, an apartment, insurance, a way of life and more before they even consider they are wrong.
But in all, this is your life and Time is Money. It is always your call if saving your marriage is worth the Time. Time is the one thing on this Earth we cannot buy, steal, or acquire more of. So choose carefully.
"Don't chase people. Be yourself, do your own thing, and work hard. The right people - the ones who really belong in your life - will come to you. And stay." ~ Will Smith
