Spoke to H today and told him he was a coward for letting me be served without even having the decency of telling me ahead of time. He said "they didn't tell me they were mailing it yet", yeah, likely story, and it's not as if he didn't know they were being written up. He then went on an on about how his attorney was saying he was being too generous to me (us) with support (which may be technically true, but it's still only enough to pay the bills) and made it pretty clear that if I contest anything he will get nasty (less $) too. I just love his whole "I'm a great guy and I don't want you and the kids to suffer, financially" but then always adding the dig that he could be less generous as a way to keep me from contesting.
He also told me that he stopped wearing his wedding ring a few months ago (but wore it when he came back home, of course) and when I asked why he is holding himself out there as a single man (which is the only reason he'd take it off) he said it was because to him, it is done, over. He's never changing his mind, he says. He still swears there is no OW but refuses to give me his banking and phone records from back there so I can see if I am being treated fairly or not. I guess my lawyer will have to figure that out.
Losing hope...
Me- 40 H- 41 S8, D5, S4 M 19 y T 23 Bomb drop 6/2013 H asked for/filed for D 9/2014 22 yo OW discovered 9/19/14 they're engaged and living together
