Update after several months of absence

[trc2009]

Ahoy, your last paragraph sums it up perfectly. I feel ready to move on one day. Ready to go out on a date the next day. Ready to make the next day with that person the next day. Only to be in my own head about my W the next day. Then pissed at her the next day. Then okay the next day. It's crazy what it puts you through.

The one thing I've done very, very well is keep things friendly. But obviously there's a fine line. I don't want to enable what she's doing but I don't want to be an a-hole either.

Don't ask, don't tell is probably the best advice I could give anybody reading this. I'm much better at it than I was 6-8 months ago but it's still very hard. Especially when there's an OM in the picture. But the reality is this.....what else do I "have" to know? I already know she's been dating him for a month or so. I already know he stays overnight quite a bit. I already know they "aren't just friends." Other than her coming out and saying "we're having regular sex," what else is there?

How much worse could it get? Other than her accidentally getting pregnant or something, I just don't see anything that could get much worse......lol. I may want to knock on some wood.