Jacket's WAH - Part 2

[Jacket]

Is what you're doing working? You've been separated for 2 months which in the scheme of things isn't all that long. If what you're doing is working and you feel strong and like you're the person you want to be, then keep on doing what you're doing.

Yeah...that's a good question. It's working in the sense that I feel better and more detached. I'm becoming the person I was meant to be, and in doing so, and in hearing from everyone around me (including our mutual friends) that I'm better off without him and that it's really truly his loss, I'm realizing that I really don't need H. I don't even know if I want him anymore. I definitely don't want him until he figures his crap out. So it's working in that I'm becoming stronger and happier. It's NOT working in that I'm not really doing much to keep the road home smooth. I'm not sure H even sees that there's a road at all, especially since we basically have no contact whatsoever.

Limbo [censored] but it's out of our control. You can choose to see it as limbo or as an opportunity to do your own thing while the future of your marital status remains undecided. Your perspective here is what matters.

I like what you said here! It IS an opportunity to do my own thing. And I've been doing just that. I'm just worried that I'm becoming bitter. I definitely feel that as time goes on, I'm having less and less compassion toward my WAS.

You sound good, Jacket. Really good.

Thanks, Ss! It sounds like you've been making tons of positive strides. Hats off to you.

My friends, including our mutual friends, when they see me, comment, in sort of a surprised tone, "How are you doing? You seem like you're doing really well!" And I really feel like I am. I'm spending a lot of time with friends, been getting back into my workouts, experimenting and trying lots of different things (hikes, recipes, restaurants, adventures), and have three vacations (if I can afford them!) lined up for the next year.