What can I do about not being supportive 13 years ago besides apologizing for it, which I did? We cried about it together. I thought it was ancient history, but maybe you're right, and it is not, but what can I do about that? I could apologize again, but she won't hear me out right now.

If there were other issues, I honestly was not aware of them. I asked her to tell me what I had done wrong, and her only response was that I always got what I wanted. That simply was not true, so I objected, and she admitted that it was not true. I don't have much to go on. We were holding hands and laughing together just days before she left.

Look, I'm not hiding anything. If I knew what I did wrong, if there were a "list" of things to write here, I would. I would love to get support and input on how to go about making changes. I am not holding back. I really and truly have no idea what her complaints would be.

I mean, I could list what I perceive to be my own shortcomings. In fact, here they are:

-Short temper
-Procrastination
-Out of shape (but losing 25 pounds has made me look in shape)

I'm practicing with the short temper by maintaining my cool while driving. I haven't blown my horn in months.

As for procrastination, I'm doing things as I notice them rather than putting them off.

And as for getting in shape, I go to the gym three days a week now.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...