W asked me not to come with her and the kids to family dinner at her parents tonight (our Monday night "ritual") so that she could talk to her parents about moving in and arrange a day for doing so. When the kids asked me if I would be coming with them, I just told them I had some extra stuff to do for work and wouldn't be able to.
Part of me feels like the carpet has been pulled out from under me. Two months ago W was so positive we were on our way to a better marriage. Now she is just as positive that all is hopeless. And although she had identified some things that would help her deal with her resentment and negative feelings, and that would help us build that better relationship, she now says she doesn't want to do them... that she is tired, and that she has done enough, and she doesn't think her feelings will ever change. The extent of her vacillation was something I was not prepared for...although I guess I certainly should have been.
H: 43 W: 37 M: 11 years T: 12 years S: 11 D: 8 ILYBINILWY, "I want to move out" and "I want a divorce": 3/23/14 MC started: 9/22/14 Affair and past infidelity discovered: 9/26/14 Piecing: 10/20/14
