G, I missed you! Glad to see you back. I will have to check your thread.
I don't know that I can answer your question without engaging in some mind-reading. I know that H is holding onto a lot of anger and resentment from the past. I know that he sees me as the enemy. With that mindset, I can see why it's difficult for him to give me emotional support. It's giving comfort to the enemy.
I also think there's an element of him not feeling like what he gives will ever be enough -- but that's just speculation on my part. Pre-S, I felt that he wasn't giving me enough and he felt that I was too focused on what was missing vs. what he was doing right. I agree with that and I'm taking ownership of that issue moving forward. I think I've done a good job of showing him that I can be more patient and get by on a lot less while he works on his own healing.
But, do you want to hear some irony? What is my H so angry about? My previous neglect of his sexual and emotional needs! We have just about come full circle.
More positives to report -- we've been texting back and forth about a logistical issue throughout the day. For the first time in ages, he's peppering his texts with smiley faces and exclamation points. It's nice to see him be playful again.
