Hey pbetra! Not a lot to add, just want to say to be careful and tread carefully. Your H is still all over the map. The phone conversation about maybe getting his own apt. comes to mind. Don't allow his "need" for you financially and his actions to secure that, give you hope he is "coming out of it". One of the things my W said to me was that one of the "reasons" she was leaving was because now that she was back working full time she felt she "could" do it. Never mind all the years that I stuck by her as the only one working. Even though I needed her income so badly for the first time ever, she only saw that SHE would be OK because the ONLY person she (or almost any MLCer) cares about is HER!
Her actions are having profound effects on her own D's. D19 is living hand to mouth because she refuses to live with her mother, D14 has been pulled from private school just when she was entering the final stretch and now feels money is a problem for the first time ever. Add that to her losing her sister being there for her, her parents getting a D, losing every friend she has ever known because her mom moved so far away, losing the only home she has ever known for half the time, having to live 7 days with mom and 7 days 30 miles away with me and never getting to totally unpack... but W feels SHE is able to leave because SHE can afford what SHE wants! That is the kind of selfishness MLCers have!
When you say you feel he may be being more interested in being intimate because he thinks this will make you feel better and "placate" you, I would listen to this feeling. I'm not telling you what to do or think. I just want you to have your eyes wide open. Keep GALing, pbetra! Take those walks. Get away from the craziness when you can!
