Dawg: It may have to get worse before it gets better. Her moving moving out and not in with him only prolongs the situation and is nothing you can control anyway. Don't waste your time trying. It's going to have to run its course. Work on detaching, don't let this thing control your mind. You mind is yours, not hers. You don't have let her or anyone determine how you are going to feel today. This is the most important lesson I have learned in this struggle. Sure it's taken a broken heart to learn it, but man, I'm going to be a stronger person and better husband on the back side of this thing more than I ever was before. And what I have learned about love, and forgiveness, is mind blowing. Can you love her enough to let her go and do this to you, and then be there to catch her when she falls? She will fall, she will. Time is the only question. If you can, you are a man among men. Truly.
Be strong bro. :-)
Me:40 W:39 M:Dec 95 Split: Jul 14 W Filed: 9/16/14 Several Children (including adopted)