Cathy,

HB's husband was not home with her all the time. He did not move out, but he was a truck driver. He is on the road most of the time. Spending nights away from her and her son.

Just because he did not move out of the house, doesn't mean that he was there with her. She had her separation because of him being on the road.

This is a very difficult time for you right now and I understand that, but you must hold onto you and what you have learned through this so far. This is going to carry you through this.

I have no idea what is going through your husband's head right now and neither do you. Have you ever been in a position where every thing was closing in on you and you thought that you were going to suffocate? That is where he is at right now.

He is screaming for someone to pull him out of this, but you can not do it. The only person that can pull him out is himself. There is nothing that you can do that can fix this or make it different. This is happening for a reason and the reason is for him.

You only have two choices, one is to stick it out and see what it going to happen and the other is to walk away from him. T24 is right about it turning into a cancer for you.

I wouldn't make any decisions until after you get through the emotional part of this. Then make your decision as to what you feel you can or can not do. Then it won't be made on emotions, but made on what you know to be right.

None of us live with him or know what he is really like. You are the only person that knows this and you are the only person that knows you other then the Lord. The Lord knows what you can and can not handle. He is there with you right now and will help you through this.

Look at Deb as well, not to long ago she was in your shoes and her husband ran again. So this does happen in this MLC. This isn't just your husband. Although your situation is different, it still happened to her.

You are going to be okay and you will know what you need to do when the time comes.

Laurie