Dealing with WAW part 6

[igit]

Pilot- whatever happends tomorrow even if served is not the end!

[pilot]

Good luck, Pilot! I hope tomorrow turns out how you want it to. Sounds like things are going well between you two…but no expectations, right?

Thanks ganb8te (and igit).

I fully EXPECT to not get served by tomorrow. My W really has made no effort to push this D along. At the same time she has made no effort to fix the M either. So I really do not see her doing anything at all.

I saw my W today around lunch time. She had wanted to meet up to swap medicine for the kiddos. We arranged to meet in the parking lot where I was going to have lunch. She was with her aunt when I got there. It was a pleasant and brief encounter. I had her aunt laughing non stop. Even my W was laughing. Oh well. A positive is a positive.

[LisaB]

Good for you pilot! You have really turned your attitude around and I'm impressed!

Keep up the great work and PMA! It sounds like you are really doing well and taking the proper baby steps without pushing in any way.

Hugs, Lisa

[pilot]

W sent me another text after I picked up the kids. She was asking them how they were. I initiated facetime for her and the kids. She talked to them for about 15 minutes in the car. Most of it was silence. Normally when the kids stop talking she leaves. Anyways, an hour later, she made an unannounced facetime call back to my phone to talk to the kids more and show them her aunts dog. Later this evening, I saw I had missed a phone call from her about 10 minutes prior. She does not call and since I had the kids, I thought it might have been important. I called her back. She said she had dialed my number by accident while the phone was in her lap. She said she saw it dialing and hung up hoping it would not ring on my end because she said she did not want to bother me. I said it was not a bother and dont know why she would think that. Anyways, she apologized again and we ended up with idle chat for the next 6-7 minutes before I had to run. We talked about the kids soccer tomorrow and I told her I was taking them to Moes before the game, and she was welcome to join us. She said she may.

Anyways...will be a fun/interesting day tomorrow for sure. I have another DB coach session at noon, so probably good timing.

[Ss06]

Oh, keep us posted on the DB session and how Moe's goes should she decide to go.

Keep being awesome!

[igit]

Pilot, sounds all positive, she sounds like she is missing the family. Not mind reading, but sounds a little iffy on the pocker dial. Anyway good for you! Keep the PMA going. She knows your excited about soccer, and I am sure she will see how good it is for boys.

[gan]

Ha! I accidentally butt dialed my H soon after we split. Only realized it 45 seconds into the call. I probably came across as overly apologetic, too. It happens! But I agree with igit, it sounds like she is missing the family.

[pilot]

Ok, had another DB coaching session. The goals for this week are more flirting, and more WOA. The coach seems to think I get positive reactions (more so over the summer) so slowly start to feel her out with more flirty behavior. If it does not get received well, then back off. Also, feel her out for the possibility of another date night. We have not really had once since she moved here, and I really have not asked. I have asked for family dinners and stuff. Not to rush it, but if I get positive movement from the WOA and flirts, then maybe take a shot. She does not want me to get stuck in the friendzone and we want to keep any positive movement forward moving forward. No stop and go stuff, as it would only build confusion for a W who does not want to lead, but follow.

I will see my W in just a bit for soccer practices so I will continue to be my charming happy self, and now maybe a little flirty.

[igit]

Nice, DB coaching is great. Good luck at soccer , I am sure u will be in a great mood with kiddies.

[pilot]

Well, soccer practice was canceled today because of rain. W did however meet us at Moes for dinner. My dad was also there. Conversation was lighter than normal, but everything was still pleasant.

I am thinking perhaps I was over confident in my assessment of W. After she drove off following dinner, she sent me a photo of her mom from when her mom was little to show me how she looked like S3. I replied 'we should have gone out for drinks tonight' That text was never answered. Maybe I have been pursuing too much. I had talked with my DB coach about what I have done, and her view was still positive over the past week, even though prior dinners were cancelled. She chose to look at the small positives. I wish I had 10 minutes left of DB time from today to follow up and see if I need to revisit my slow and steady ahead approach. Because right now I feel like reverting back to NC mode (kid friendly version).