Jacket's WAH - Part 2

[Jacket]

Thanks for the recommendation, Vossy! I still haven't had a chance to get over to Macy's to check it out, but I will.

So I've been MIA from the boards for the last 11 days or so. I wish it was because exciting things were happening, but alas, that's not the case. Nothing bad's happening per se; in fact, I've been keeping really busy and having a lot of fun, but I have nothing to report on the M and H fronts. I've been keeping updated on others' situations, but haven't really had a chance to post. I've been working on GAL activities and the NC with H has been making the detaching SO much easier. Now I don't spend much time at all thinking about or wondering what he's up to.

My friend who sees H regularly at salsa said that he usually asks how I'm doing and asked her some random question about a pie that I brought over to her house for dinner one night. I didn't explicitly state in my FB picture of the pie that I was at her house for dinner, but she made a comment on it and so he's obviously reading the comments and deduced where I was that night. Interesting.

H went to a birthday party for our mutual friends' kid last weekend. I chose not to go, partly to avoid the awkwardness and also because I was invited to something else that sounded more fun (picnic with my friend and her French house guest). H had sent out that stupid email (you know, that one I talked about at length in my last thread) to some of our mutual friends the week before the party and changed his FB status from "Married" the day before the party. However, I had coffee with our mutual friend on Saturday and she said that H spent the entire party fielding questions about us. Apparently the first thing he was asked by everyone upon walking in the door was, "Where's Jacket?" Good grief, I am so glad I wasn't there. That would just have been awkward for everyone...or I guess people would have just been none the wiser because they probably would have assumed we were together. Whatever.

So it's been a month (maybe longer? I've lost track) of NC with H. I still have some random things at the house, but have no immediate need to get any of those things. He also still has not filed. My parents are asking me if I want to go ahead and just file so I can get some spousal support or if I want to just ask him directly for some financial support without filing. I'm inclined to do neither at this point. I suppose I'm still interested in potentially R, and filing myself therefore seems like the route I should NOT go. Also, he's going to have a cow when he sees the discrepancy between what he thinks our financials are going to be post-D and what I think they are going to be post-D. I'm just not ready for that kind of confrontation, though I suppose it's going to happen sometime (unless he comes out of this fog).

Anyway, I guess the point of all this rambling is, where do I go from here? Do I just keep on this path of NC and my own GAL activities? The more time that passes, the less I feel like R and the more I am enjoying my new life. At some point do I reach out at all? I honestly don't feel a need to. Do I just keep waiting in limbo here?