Dealing with WAW part 6

[pilot]

Maybell! I was trying to tell igit that his W needs to know there are a lot of bad apples out there. igit is a good apple and she will realize it one day.

[Maybell]

Right.. But don't dash the cup of hope from my lips if things don't work out for me.

[igit]

Pilot, I thank you for the kind words. She is just acting like a spoiled brat. It's like yes you are a very attractive 48 yr old woman w 3 little kids. Hmm wonder what you think is out there for you. She needs a 2x4.What my DB coach told me was you have to go LRT slightly modified do to kids. But do nothing with her or for her , move on in your mind and don't get sucked back in to her games. She served you w D papers. Confuse them and make them feel they have lost you. DB coach told me that sometimes when D is in works if LBS spouse can really look like is letting go.WAW has a wake up call. Pilot I can't explain it other than I have been a rock for my kids and my w for that matter through this fiasco. I have really done the work to make myself a better person.I do realize I am going to be ok. You may have seen my post about walk with Emmaus! Wife actually called me tonight and asked why I don't wait till next yr. I know this is a big deal spiritually and so does she. I told her it's something I need to do for myself and I am going to do it now. she doesn't make alot of sense rt now.

[pilot]

Interesting day. I had planned on taking the kiddos out for a boat ride today. My W sent me a text early this morning asking me to let her know when I was leaving here (about 45 minute drive) to come get the kids from her. I sent her a message when I was leaving, and she sent me one saying ok, meet her at Cracker Barrel. Geez...still determined to not have me go to her house. Anyways, I get there, get the kids' stuff, get the kids packed up. Conversation was pleasant and happy, but brief. Add a brief hug in, and that was the extent of our interaction today.

The boat trip was a lot of fun, and the kids had a blast. I sent a few random pictures of the kids through out the day to W. She would reply cute, etc.

Then this evening, I get a text from her asking if the kids had fun. she also wanted to tell me that she saw my fav. ice cream (which is hard to find) was in the store she was in, and it was on sale. I replied the kids had a great time, and she should buy the ice cream and make a milk shake out of it. I then sent another couple of picts, including one with me and the kids, as well as about 4 videos. She replied to all of them. She then replied she thinks she forgot to give me some medicine for one of the kids, so she will get it to me. We then engaged in a back and forth about stuff. Nothing heavy.

And that was that.

[Ss06]

Communications about life is better than no communication at all, right?

Keep up the PMA and the GAL. Slow and steady...

[igit]

Pilot, I was thinking about your sitch rt now. I know Its hard to keep it going like it is! How are your W job prospects going? That will be a big reality check! My W tells me she wants her freedom! I am sure you have heard the same thing! What kind of freedom do they think they will have with kids! Its hard enough to raise them together! I don't think my W is really looking at the bigger picture! I hope your W does!

[pilot]

funny you should ask about her job. While she never told me, I suspect she is cleaning condos for her aunt (she runs a condo cleaning business and has quite a few units under contract). So for now it seems schedule wise, she is doing ok. Not sure what kind of money is involved, but she has not asked me for any lately...so...

[igit]

Pilot- that sounds like a tough job! Not much $$. Anyway maybe it will give her a sense of how hard it is to make a living in this big bad world.
How are things going with Papers? Isnt there a deadline coming up! Let it expire?

[pilot]

Tomorrow is the deadline for her to serve me. Tomorrow is also the 1 year anniversary of BD. Also the first day of coaching soccer for my two kiddos. Hah, gonna be a fun day!

She may get some perspective, she may not. How she uses this time is up to her.

W has texted me a few times this morning wanting to find a place to meet up to exchange the kids' medicine. While that is kid related so expected, she has been a little bit accommodating as to when and where (she is in my town right now). So there is at least that bit of friendliness.

[gan]

Good luck, Pilot! I hope tomorrow turns out how you want it to. Sounds like things are going well between you two…but no expectations, right?