Damn, Cathy! I am so sorry you are going through run-away part II!
I have to agree that you are making assumptions that this has anything to do with OW.
However, I'm going to be brutally honest with you here...in my opinion, you have shared enough with us all to give me the heebie-jeebies about your H. There are many things that DB techniques can do wonders on...but...DBing can't fix problems with a spouse who has big-time alcohol issues and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
I was married the first time around to a Jekle & Hyde alcoholic. He was fine when sober, but would binge drink. When he drank, a personality would come out that was quite evil & very abusive. Over the years, the binges got closer together and the abusiveness bled more & more into the sober periods.
I know you have DB'ed your butt off. I want you to be happy and I want your son to grow up healthy and strong. If continuing to try to save your M is what will make you happy, then I will support you, but I don't like the way he is being verbally and emotionally abusive to you!
