Continue to stay calm. Do not lose your cool or anything that you have been doing. You are assuming everything right now and you don't know for sure anything.
According to the things that HB has shared with me with her husband, this happened to her when her husband was in withdrawal.
It is like they go through all the stages again and have to face each one. All the temptations are put in their face once again for them to make the correct choice and close the door on them.
This has been building up in your husband for quite some time. You do not know the guilt or anything that the Lord has been laying on him for the time that he has been home and to decide that he isn't going through something, he very much so is. Even your SS couldn't understand why he got so hostile over nothing.
He is still in the me mode and until he shuts the door on all things, he will go through this. When he shuts the door on all of the stuff the he has to face, then and only then will he enter acceptance and start to settle down some.
The calmer you stay, the more he has to face himself and the more this will get burned out of him. He is acting like a spoiled child and throwing a temper tantrum because you didn't jump when he said jump. You don't have to and this is the new you. He will either accept it or he won't, but one day he is going to have to stop running because he is going to be forced too.
According to what HB told me, it does look like they are going backwards at this time when they really are not. She said that her husband went through the same thing when he had to face his final fears and he got scared. She watched him go through this in fast speed because it only took him a week. Your husband could take longer or it could be the same amount of time.
Now is the time for you to stand firm and not be shaken. Let him go so the Lord can deal with him. Go on with your life as if like you have been. You have been doing an awesome job and this just threw you off.
Restoration and reconciliation is not easy and there are going to be some rough spots, but don't always assume that he has ran off to her. He may not have, he may have ran off to be by himself. You just don't know and that is the worst part of all of this.
Now more then ever is when you must stay strong and trust the Lord. Keep praying and stand firm. The Lord is not going to let anything happen to you or your kids. But he is going to deal with your husband in his way.
My prayers are there for you and they will continue to be there for you.
