Pilot, think a little turn for the worse! W took boys this am to her "New" church which irritates me but I didn't let on to that feeling! Went to our church by myself. Got home Cut the lawn <2 hr task> W called and asked me if I wanted to take boys and D12 to county fair. she had a 4 hr computer class online she needed to do in order to comply with her job! I agreed and while waiting for there return did boys laundry for school week. Waited for W and called her once to see where they were. Anyway no answer and she shows up with kids at 430. I thought it was getting late to go to fair on a Sunday and told kids I would take them after school this week. Anyway W decided to blow her requirement off and take kids to fair by herself. I stopped in to see her in bathroom while she was shaving her legs. <no big deal> She then got really nasty with me for coming in to talk to her! <I mean she was in her shorts> really nasty to me! I told her I wasn't going to take this anymore. This Jekyll and Hyde is wearing me out! I am really thinking I need to go LRT to save my own sanity. A man can only take so much S..t before enough is enough! Funny how this morning we were kissing and this afternoon is a total wreck! Anyway went to office and think I am going to stay here and work until Kids and W are in bed! The less I see of her the better rt now!
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
Sorry to hear that. But...you were kissing this morning? You left out the positive story and focused on the negative. It sounds like things were fine this morning, and then something triggered. Seemingly on your decision to NOT take the kids to the fair. It is very likely your W had told the kids they were going to go, and when you said you did not want to take them so late, she got agitated and took them herself. Not saying you were at fault, but what about that interaction could be a trigger? Were you typically uncompromising or controlling on issues like this in the past? Not meaning to use harsh adjectives, but what about that conversation could have been an unpleasant experience for your W?
Think on it a bit... Maybe that will help prevent future negative interactions like this...
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Pilot thanks- you are probably rt. The w has been calling and texting me. Her last txt to me please call me I am pretty shook up! I texted her back sorry I am too. Pilot- this is so hard to take I just had to get out of there and be alone for awhile! I think she knows I have had about all I can take! I know she is confused and I am going to keep to my plan of LRT for now! She had a few hrs with kids at Fair to think. we always made a big deal out of fair with the kids and I know the kids were missing me!
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
I know it is tough. Even more so because youve got that deadline looming. Plus you guys are still in the same house. I at least get some space to keep my sanity. Just remember the big picture. She is confused. That means you are in a better position now than you were. No guarantees, but all the more reason to NOT backslide.
Keep up the good work buddy.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
Pilot, my W is a little shook up rt now! I think she felt like I wasn't coming back last night. My D12 got sick last night from fair food and had to stay home from school today! Its like a reality check what happens when one of twins gets sick this yr. I don't know but I certainly understand why a lot of what I read about D and kids say leave no stone unturned, try to give M a chance! Anyway these WAW have a mind of there own. I don't want to live with my W as she is now! Its only her that can change and make an effort! Its just crazy how they can turn completely away from someone they have been with for so long. just venting I guess.
M 54 W 48 T 19 M 17 D 12 Twin S 6 Twin S 6 Ilybnilwy 1/26/14 A discovered 2/3/14 D filed 7/25/14 Sumons served 8/14/14
The A is easier. No history. It's all new and exciting. They can portray themselves how they want and in their minds, there is no baggage. It's like a do over.
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3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
