A: "Well, I'm sorry they feel that way. I haven't decided yet whether or not I want to go, but I can assure you my decision will have NOTHING to do what these people think about my personal business. But thanks for letting me know."
And then you should show up.
Sounds like I'll have to have this conversation with her again then. I did mention that these people had no reason to think poorly of me as I was the LBS, and this boundary would probably prevent a nasty confrontation between the OM and I, so for that they should be thankful. One problem is that I have no idea where this thing is, and the original plan was for us to stay down there overnight (it's about an hour away), which would mean we would have to have a pet sitter, so just showing up would require a bit more planning. Plus, if I were to show up and the OM was there amongst a group of mostly his friends, I don't think that would go well for me...physically or emotionally.
