The gift of time . . .

[gan]

Hey, Elsa. Just catching up. Sounds like you guys are having some tough but good conversations. "Emotional support" is an interesting one. My H pulled those words out of the bag in the l last couple of months before he moved out. He felt that he was having to provide too much emotional support to me - which was interesting because at the time I didn't feel like he was meeting my emotional needs at all. In hindsight I think I was letting work stress spill over too much at home. In other words, my not being able to manage my own stress better probably led to a circumstance where he perceived he needed to give/was giving me a lot of emotional support. I'm trying to work on that.

Dig deep - why do you think your H feels so intimidated by the idea of providing emotional support?