Hang in there, essjay. My WW moved out as soon as things got physical between her and the OW, so I did not have to watch the transformation. It must be pure torture. I have spoken with a nationally recognized marriage counselor who is not to be named here, and he says he treats same-sex affairs the same as heterosexual affairs. He believes that men going through this should stay hopeful because lesbian relationships are fragile. He said that most men in our situation give up too early. He also told me that he has personally counseled many couples in our situation whose marriages were restored.


M 16 T 17
W moved in w/ AP (OW) 5/14
ILYBNIL 5/14
A discovered 6/14
D papers served via USPS 8/14
Filed my response 9/14
D final 5/15...