Wife Declares She is a Lesbian

[essjay]

Thanks for keeping an eye out for me Wonka.

Desperately need some encouragement as things aren't going well; perhaps it would be easier if it was another man!

Afraid that i let myself down sunday - i was doing so well out in the garden on my own. She came out to talk to me (again) and mentioned that she was going out a couple of nights this week and i made the mistake of just asking casually, before i had realised what i'd said, "oh ok where to"...as you would in a normal conversation - we'd been having some nice conversations recently; - but this of course is far from normal and i let my guard slip!

R talk ensued and I validated her as best i could - I said that " I see that now, I'm sorry if I hurt you and believe me I'd do things differently now". She talked about holidays on her own to meet with people she's been chattting to online. We talked about her moving out - financially a problem and the girls would be devastated, I tried to keep composed but it wasn't easy and i got tearful.

If as she says she's not interested in me or a relationship with me anymore why does she do this to me? Why press my buttons like that.

You're right Wonka this DB'ing is hard.
MIL called me again on saturday morning to find out how i was. She says W is not going to change her mind!
Her brother has been trying to contact her as well to talk to her, she's been putting him off. I'm afraid that all this pressure from the family will only push her further down this path. She's been expecting it though - it's almost as if she has an answer for everything - she's well prepared with a script from these women who are 'helping her'.

She is so immersed in this Lesbian scene, she hasn't come off the old website as she said she was; is still seeing OW, looks to me like she's on another/different site as well now. Watches Lesbian movies on the i pad - she has really jumped into the deep end.

I'm hurting..