My FIL revealed to me yesterday that he had a recent conversation with my W, in which my W told him that she has given the OM an ultimatum with regard to divorcing his W, and devoting himself to my W. The OM is currently hesitating to file D, because of his W's father's health situation.
My FIL gets the feeling that my W is starting to realize that she is the 2nd woman in the OM's life.
I know that I'm not supposed to be focusing on the OM/OMW and their situation, and that even if things don't work out between my W and the OM, it doesn't mean she will run back into my arms. I will always keep that in mind.
In other news...
The OMW contacted me last night. She sent me a txt saying, "can we talk"? I'm very tempted to engage her, but history tells me that every time I do, it gets back to my W and things turn ugly.
I want to do the honest thing and simply tell my W that the OMW contacted me. However, the OMW might be trying to work things out with the OM, and if the OM is anything like my W (My W says he is exactly like herself), he will not be happy that she reached out to me. If I tell my W, then my W will tell the OM, which means I could indirectly be dealing a negative blow to their chances at getting back together.
I know little to nothing about their current situation, so I'm simply guessing here. But I'm trying to weigh my options. My gut tells me that I should just be honest with my W, and let the chips fall where they may.
M: 15 years BD: 6/25/14 EA/PA: starts 5/14/14 11/30/14 - A ends 5/15/15 - D is finalized. 11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!
