To Pursue or Not

[Arcola]

Well I ended up helping her move some things from our house to the rental. While moving I stopped her to talk and let her know she didn't have to do this. She is very emotional about the move too as she has put so much effort into the house we currently live in. While talking, I mentioned how I felt about OM being in the picture and why I overreacted at the beginning of things. She went on to tell me how she felt about OM. She also went on to say part of the reason for her moving because things weren't getting any better between me and her (In my head I'm like duhhh!!! But you aren't trying to make the changes necessary for us to work on our sitch). She says she values him as a friend. Some tears were shed as she expressed how she felt and I too. Unfortunately, nothing got resolved as far as our sitch.

While talking to her she did tell me that OM sometimes gets on her nerves. She said this past Friday at work he asked how she liked the rental and she began to break down in tears. I'm guessing he said its okay, but he also said, "Cheer up its Friday!" He also said something else to do with Friday that didn't make her feel any better. It was some relief knowing that OM might not know just how to comfort my W. And she's one to hold a grudge. If things progress between them I truly hope OM Fs up.

W doesn't plan on moving out until this weekend. Moreover, its a 6 month lease. Hopefully, in that time I progress myself for the better and W and our sitch gets back to what we had but better prior to OM. My kids are all excited about the move. If we argue, we don't do it around the kids. So I guess they think this is some kind of new house or getaway. Whatever they may be feeling I hope the transition isn't too hard on them.