afraid I have waited too long #4

[nit84]

nmwb123,

I was served the D complaint papers in Early May, About 2 weeks later I received a Summons to appear in Court for Spousal support. last day in June.

At that hearing it was determined that I had to pay my W spousal support each month till the court said I didn't have to.

This support is designed to allow the supportee to rehabilitate themselves to live on their own and start a new life separate from the M but not yet D.

Then at some point a distribution of assets is sent and negotiations begin after that.

I have not received this yet from my W attorney. My W and I have gone over some stuff together but not much.

That is where I am at right now.

At any Time My W who filed the D can pull them if she desires.

If not the D proceeds once all things are settled.

The actual D decree is served and if we both agree the M is over then we sign and we wait 90 days then a judge dissolves the M unless he/she feels there is special circumstances where the M should not be terminated.

It does take some time to sift through all the details and the only ones who win are the L's.

Until that day comes for me. I am standing for my M and trying to become or remain a man only a fool would leave.

My W continues to see the OM and I cant control that it is her choice. It is not a deal breaker for me but I won't live in an open M she knows this and is still on her own journey so she needs to complete that before anything can happen.

It is very frustrating, confusing, angering and any other feeling you can name except Happy or Loving.

I am working on myself because that is all I control.

I still care and love my W deeply but she doesn't feel that way about me at the moment.

Good Luck in your Sitch and hang in there!!