Ok. Just figuring this out now. Sorry, this link is to a blog, not anything very official. But if you had a bad R and can't get over the BD check it out.
I think this is true for me. My R was never great. Never. We weren't good friends and had nothing in common. She got pregnant right away and we got married and tried to make it work. She is a good person with flaws, as am I. We didn't have any foundation with which to battle life together and made all the standard mistakes. Our love and positive intention was there but we diet execute and roughly half (or all if you ask my STBX) weren't very fulfilling.
Now, I still believe god gave us to each other and where we misfire is a sign of where we need to grow. I believe in marriage and commitment. But lets be real. Being together with my W again wouldn't be rainbows and roses. Of course I'd give my all or I wouldn't be here. Just trying to remember that she isn't the missing piece to my heart (or again, I wouldn't be here).
I needed that reality check as it helps reduce the pain and today was tough. Stupid guy loses girl and gets her back and is happy movies...
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
