Thanks for the fast replies. NOPkins, I really don't think she is cheating. She has very good morals, and I don't think she would do it. Also, she is so busy, I don't think she would have the time. Blackrook, yes she is depressed and on Prozac for it. There is a lot I didn't mention in the first post. I didn't want to get to detailed and bore everyone. Anyway, we both have alcoholic families. I grew up without a dad. My mom never remarried. I was lucky enough to have good role models in my aunts, uncles, and grandparents. We all lived together. To this day, if anyone needs help, the others won't hesitate to help. They work hard and enjoy themselves on the weekend. My wife's wasn't as lucky. I think her mom married her dad to spite her parents. He was 38 and she was 24. They ended up getting divorced when my wife was 20. The mother in law is a very mean and vindictive person. The thing that scares the crap out of me, is I notice my wife getting more and more like her every year. I grew up watching a family pull together to make things work. I think that is why I am so giving, understanding, and willing to help my wife. My wife, I suspect, saw her mother mentally and verbally abuse the dad. I think this is why she is that way. Although, the transformation has only occurred the last few years. It is kind of funny how I met my wife.I worked with her father. He lived close by, and we used to go for dinner quite a bit. Then one day his daughter stopped by. I was immediately in love. I thought this was the perfect deal. Her dad and I shared the same job. She grew up seeing what he could provide, so it must be alright. My father in law lived at their summer cottage. When I asked about the wife, he told me how she quit drinking and smoking and overnight turned against him. This really scares me, it is exactly what my wife is doing to me. So, it gets even better. My mother in law ends up cutting us a great deal on the house she got in the divorce. My wife has lived in this house for 33 years. We still have the same phone number! We talked about the house and my wife didn't mind staying there. She said someday she wanted a new one. I said that was fine. Then after a year she got on a kick if it was remodeled she would feel better. Over the years I have moved bedrooms, bathrooms, etc. Still, she is unhappy. Now that we are not getting along the best, I can't see spending a ton of money to get a different house just to see if it will make her feel better. She was having a hard time dealing with stuff in her early 20s. One day I find out she is taking Prozac. It was prescribed by a family practitioner. The same guy prescribed Claritin without ever seeing me. My wife just happened to be in the office and told him about my allergies and he wrote a prescription. I was really pissed when I heard about the Prozac. I think some doctors give out way to many drugs. I felt this should have been prescribed by a Psychologist. I was doing some research on Prozac and saw it had libido issues in 11% of the users. I told my wife, her doctor said it wasn't true. I told our counselor this, he said it wasn't true. I really blame the Prozac on most of it. She also tried every other available antidepressant. Some of those drugs had some very scary side effects. I saw her get very, very sick when she stopped taking them. Again, the doctors that gave her these didn't inform her of the risks. She still takes Prozac. I think some of the hostility toward me comes from the fact that she wants a better life style than I can give her. I am a tight wad. I don't spend money foolishly. I am not afraid to spend it, I just don't like to waste it.Her friends buy new houses and drive unbelievable vehicles. I have no idea how they are swinging it. I remember her coming home from work and asking me if I knew what a home equity loan was. She must have been talking to the girls at work and I suspect they told her that is how they get nice stuff. I notice that she goes from one drama to the next. She always has to be spinning out over something. She never sits still. She will take the smallest thing and make it a big deal. If she has something that could be done it two months, it will get done the first week. She was never this way. Could this be a side effect of the Prozac? When I met her, she was a slob. There were so many dirty dishes in her bedroom, and clothes all over. Now I better not leave 2 bread crumbs on the counter or a shirt laying on the floor. It is very strange. If you met her, you would like her. Everybody does. If I told people what kind of wife she was, they wouldn't believe me. She is a fantastic mother to my son. I give her all the credit in the world for that. I just pray someday she will see me as a teammate and not the enemy. Thanks for helping. I really appreciate it. I have nobody to talk to about my situation. I work with most of my friends and can't confide in them. I don't want everyone at work to know what is going on.
