I guess maybe I'm not being clear, and/or, my situation is just not quite as bad as some. My W is perfectly "willing" to ML...(if you want to call lying there like a sack of potatoes "ML"), so maybe I'm better off than most. But that's not what I want. I can get that from a prostitute. What I want is for her to want to ML, genuinely and enthusiastically. I want it to be her idea, at least some of the time. She has enough on her plate... a busy day every day with alot of chores that she would rather not have, and at the end of the day, she's pooped...and I understand and appreciate that fact. I wish I could make her life easier, more than anything else. Putting another "chore" on her "to do" list would be contrary to that goal. I don't know...maybe the "h" in my "HD" isn't as "H" as I thought. either that, or my "really don't want to be a burden-D" is higher than my HD.
not sure I understand the link to the swollen nuts, although now that I think of it, if we just cut them off, that would solve our desire discrepancy problems. Then we'd both be LD, and happy. I think it was mentioned in the book, too, that its not any specific level of desire that's a problem, but the discrepancy that is the problem.
