Thank you guys for all the cheerleading and support. I really look to you all for support and guidance and I thank you for always being there for me.
Listening to so many of your stories has made me realize that many of the marriages I see everyday that seem to be ideal or strong or solid... maybe they just aren't.
I see the ease that so many men reach for their wives hand which used to indicate to me REAL strength in a marriage for some reason. It spoke so much to me.
Now I wonder. Maybe I'm becoming cynical but I think it's more about the reality that EVERY MARRIAGE IS HARD! No one has it easy and if they do, either they are 1 in a million or they're in denial and it's just a matter of time before their bomb is dropped. I don't know.
I ran into an old friend today who knows H and I are recently separated. He saw H and I together at starbucks yesterday. He asked me today how 'things are going'? We talked a bit and he told me that he and his wife, who look INCREDIBLY solid, I mean UNWAVERINGLY SOLID, were separated for 6 months at one point and a year at another point right before their daughter was born.
I was shocked! We talked about how marriage is hard for everyone and requires work individually and collectively every single day.
It was refreshing to talk to someone with similar experiences. His encouragement was so nice to hear.
He also said that H and I were "so good together" and then joked that H is crazy if he throws me away. He was being nice but I needed to hear that at that moment.
After all that, I just want to say that I honestly don't know where I'd be with all of this if it weren't for this forum and all of you. I need the raw 2x4s, the encouragement and support and I hope that I'm able to give even a 1/10th back of what I've received.
