Interesting day, people. Would love to hear thoughts!
So, yesterday I asked H to keep D3 a bit later than usual since I was not feeling well. He did so, without complaint (although did mention he was headed to dinner with his buddy so couldn't keep her too late). He took the car with him (we share it), and texted to ask if I would need it this morning. I wrote back that I was taking D3 for a haircut this a.m., and while I normally wouldn't mind using public transport, there is a route change due to construction, and I also wasn't feeling 100%. I said I'd prefer to have the car if possible.
We went back and forth a bit, but not angrily-- I suggested maybe he could pick us up and drop us at hair cut in the morning... but he replied it would be too early for him.
He said he'd bring the car back last night before he went out, then a minute later said, "Forget it, I won't have time. I'll be there in the morning." (I could sense he wasn't looking forward to that. He was traveling all week and LOVES to sleep a lot.) I thanked him and said I hoped he had a fun night.
Anyway, he came to pick us up this a.m., I had a chance to do a BIG 180 in the car-- I used to be a super-anxious passenger. One of his complaints was that I was always acting afraid (grabbing the door handle, not able to look at or talk to him because i kept my head down). He felt like I didn't trust him as a driver. Well, he had to stop hard to avoid running a light, and I didn't even flinch a bit. Stayed totally cool. Go me! (Thank you meds!) I think he also noticed I wasn't wearing my ring, but didn't say anything about it.
After haircut I was walking with D3 to a park nearby. I decided to try an experiment: I texted him to invite him to come.
me: "If you happen to be free, you are welcome to join us. It's a beautiful day." H: "Going to be working all day and making some food for D3. I'm sorry. I just don't have the time." Me: Ok, no worries. H: "Thanks for the invite."
Clearly nothing earth shatteringly positive, but definitely not negative.
Complicating that narrative, woo hoo! And had a glorious day with D3, to boot.
